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Expert Tips on How To Rekindle Love and Fall in Love again

Do you want her back? Are you seeing things that evoke enjoyable memories of your past relationship?

If you often smile in reminiscence remembering your ex, you may be missing her and wanting her back. Sometimes we are overcome with severe nostalgia for past pleasurable events. It is a common feeling that if pursued properly can lead to rekindling lost love.

When you are deep in thought thinking about your ex, chances are you already miss her and wish she was still in your life. A survey report on U.K Daily Mail confirmed that “Half of all women have a fallback partner on call should their current relationship turn sour.”

According to the survey, half of all women rarely fall back in love again with the same person. Therefore, there is a high probability you may rekindle love with your ex and once again become lovebirds. If you spent the last few moments of your relationship arguing and being resentful, pain and grief will only bring more suffering.

Right now you should be thinking of what to do to save your relationship from becoming extinct.

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"Sometimes we are overcome with severe nostalgia for past pleasurable events. It is a common feeling that if pursued properly can lead to rekindling lost love..."

Here are great tips on how to rekindle love and fall back in an affectionate relationship again:

How to Rekindle Love: Expert Tips on Reviving the Feeling of Affection​

Practice Emotional Affection: You will reap the benefits of doing so in the near future

Emotional affection is highly dependent on trust. You are with your partner because you trust her to look out for you, care for you with dignity, love you unconditionally and treat you with love.

Whenever your partner puts you down and betrays you, you lose the real intimacy that bonded you together. Without trust, emotional affection cannot survive in a relationship.

How to express emotional affection:

  • When sharing physical affection and without sexual caressing
  • When talking together about how the day was, share opinions, feelings, etc. and your partner is paying close attention
  • When your partner is vulnerable in front of you and you accept her/his weaknesses
  • While sharing amusing moments and experiences together

You can also practice emotional affection in sexual intimacy with open communication about how to please one another, eye contact, spoken words, etc. Even when you have argued and disagreed, you can still practice physical affection through touching, kindness, and humor.

Do you really want to stay?

Before you even think about beginning the rekindling process, be honest to yourself if you really want to stay. Answer yourself whether you’ve put in enough efforts to effect significant changes.

If you feel you are unsure about the decision you are about to make seek professional advice. If you are sure you really want the relationship to continue then do the following:

  • ​Both of you must commit to your relationship. Your relationship must take first priority over everything else. That includes your chores, parents, children, your ego, TV, gym, etc.
  • You must embrace your relationship as a separate force that the two of you are supposed to care for. This does not strip away your individuality but ensures you are jointly committed to nurturing your relationship.

An unstable relationship destabilizes everything else in your life.

A happy relationship is necessary for the security and happiness of your children, your mental health, and job.

Lead with kindness

A sample act of kindness could save many relationships from ending. Leading with kindness will ensure you are able to solve disputes fast and with less pain. Small acts of kindness will eventually turn into a significant positive change and increased happiness.

Happiness is an essential ingredient in all relationships and an abundance of that ingredient means a stronger and positive relationship. According to marriage expert and psychologist John Gottman, Ph.D., “it takes five positive interactions to every one negative interaction for a marriage to last.”

Kindness is a progressive emotion that involves conscious choice. You must choose to lead with kindness over winning an argument.​

Show Respect to the Individual

We are unique and distinct beings with a different set of own feelings, beliefs, desires and habits.

You cannot expect your partner to behave, feel and have the exact desires as yours. You will have different views of the world on an individual basis. The only thing bonding you together is your choice to fall in love and stay together. By accepting and respecting your partner for how he/she is, then you can find a common ground for solving disagreements considerately.

When you love your partner just the way they are, you are offering your unconditional love and acknowledging their authentic selves.​

Seek a Mediator: He will help you view your relationship from another perspective 

Majority of couples experience difficulties that are beyond their control. Some partners argue so hard that they are not willing to compromise to achieve a solution. If this happens, don’t let the arguments grow exponentially and become unsolvable. If it reaches a point of complete disagreement, you should seek professional guidance.

Asking out for help brings in a third party who acts to guide you reach a solution. Most couples avoid counseling because they believe they should solve their disputes alone. So, next time you have an argument, seek professional guide and solve your disputes thoughtfully.

Create Opportunities for Fun

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Life becomes busy especially when you have kids at home. Some partners leave the office in the evening feeling tired and all you want is to rest.

If you remain busy whole week you’ll probably sleep the entire weekend. So it is essential to prioritize having fun together and bonding with children and friends. You can engage in a number of adventurous activities while you rekindle love.

Spend time on the roof gazing at the stars, go for regular date nights, take weekend excursions etc. Spend time together trying to reconnect and revive the old intimate pleasure you once shared.​

Don’t Dispute in Anger

This is the most troublesome change to adopt, but it is again the most life transforming. Walk away instead of expressing your undesired anger at your partner.

It embarrasses to scream and yell at your partner then later on you come to apologize. When your anger outgrows your control, have a firm rule that you will step away and give yourself time for that anger to disperse. Words expressed in anger are poisonous o your partner. They may be seen as light words, but in the end they cause harm.

Once you notice an argument has gotten out of hand, request your partner you’d like to continue the conversation later on when there is calm. Engage in a different activity if you want to get your angry feelings out.

In Conclusion...

If you value your relationship, you don’t have to wait until it is too late to start mending things. Discuss with your partner how you can repair your relationship and continue living happily. Curate a list of ways you can express more respect, love and kindness and practice together with your partner. Don’t leave your partner behind on this journey of emotional restoration.

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Written by Terrence Kennedy

Terrence Kennedy is the man’s man on a journey to self-discovery. A traveler, extreme sports aficionado, an observant wanderer, a DIY-Know-How, an ultimate outsider and a documentarist of culture, sex, dating, relationship, fashion, style and gentleman's etiquette. He has learned a lot through his escapades, and is happy to pass that knowledge on to you.