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Is She Shy, Insane Or Totally Into You? How to Tell if a Girl Likes You

Girls are confusing enough, even when they are willing to run their mouths for days on ends up about pop culture, the latest gossip and their plethora of emotions. Often we are busy wondering how is it possible to get the opposite gender to simmer down and shut up for a minute, but not every girl fits into this category.

What happens though when you run into one of those ladies who isn’t constantly jabbering away, but instead she barely says a word? You can’t seem to make her speak, laugh or even make eye contact.

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"Normally, you would just leave the quiet-as-a-church-mouse type of girls alone, but for some reason you’re kind of into this chick. She seems intriguing from what you know viewing from the outside, but it is hard to tell what lies beneath the surface. .."

Normally, you would just leave the quiet-as-a-church-mouse type of girls alone, but for some reason you’re kind of into this chick. She seems intriguing from what you know viewing from the outside, but it is hard to tell what lies beneath the surface. Trying to navigate whether she likes you or she is just being shy seems nearly impossible. How can you tell someone feels when they rarely speak?

Luckily, there are some sure signs that a shy girl actually likes you. Some of the cues are subtle, but they are there if you know where to look. This guide is to give you a handful of indicators to see if she may have the hots for you too. Here are the things to be on the lookout out for when you happen to be around the girl in question.

Is she shy, insane or totally in to you? (The Telltale Signs)

She Is Around You An Awful Lot

In life there are no such things as coincidences- at least when it comes to women. If this girl happens to be around you a good deal of time, this is a major sign that she likes you.

Shy, introverted girls don’t seek out the company of others unless there is a specific reason.

If you notice she starts showing up to places you hang out, spends time with people you know, picks up a hobby you participate in or you just see her around a lot more, chances are she is intentionally trying to expose you to her presence.

The reasoning behind this is that shy girls don’t always have the courage or social skills to say, “Hey, I kind of like you, would you want to hang out sometime?”

So instead they take an indirect path to try to get you notice them, so that you will actually make the first move. If you are around her a lot already, don’t be afraid to give her what she wants by letting her know how you feel.​

She’s Is Buddy, Buddy With Every Other Guy Besides You

Girls suffer from this issue as badly as many guys do. Sometimes it is difficult to overcome the excitement you have for a crush to actually spend the time talking to them.

Shy girls frequently will not talk to their crush due to the fact they already have a difficult time managing regular social interaction, so the added fact of having a crush just becomes too much social awkwardness to handle all at once.

It can be annoying when the girl you like seems to have no problem talking to any other guys besides you, and you sometimes wonder if it just because she just doesn’t like you.

The fact is she is just keeping quiet instead of risking sounding stupid, blushing or worse in front of you. Many shy girls can go to extreme with this and just avoid interacting with you all together. It is important to remember this is not her snubbing you, but she is just giving into her shy side.

Don’t be afraid to coax her out of her shell a little bit, so that she gets an opportunity to make a fool of herself just like the rest of us people who suffer from crushes!

She Starts Acting A Little Bit Odd Around You

Especially if you’ve known her for a while, and you notice she is starting to act strange, chances are she likes you. Even if you don’t know her well, some odd behaviors are easy to pick up on.

Does she ask weird questions? Does she talk quickly and quietly without making eye contact? Does she randomly walk away in mid-conversation? Does she fidget, sigh, look down, mutter, etc.

All of these little odd behaviors indicate that she may have feelings for you. Since she doesn’t really know how to express these feelings, it is making her nervous the fact she doesn’t know what to do about how she feels.

So instead she will continue to act kind of weird until you either let her know how you feel, or she finally grows the balls to tell you how she feels. Do her favor by putting her out of her misery and asking her for coffee or something like that.

She Laughs A Lot Around You

Despite being quiet and mousey she seems to laugh excessively when she is around you. Whether it is a nervous giggle, or she is laughing way too loudly at your jokes, the laughter seems just a bit off at some times.

We know that you probably think that you and your friends are hilarious, but you can tell when a girl is going to just a little bit over board on the laughter.

When a chick does this she is trying to do a number of things. For one, she wants to let you know that she finds your brand of humor particularly funny, and maybe she even does for now while you are still up on a pedestal of perfection that crushes get put on.

The other reason is that laughter offers every human being a release from anxiety. If she is nervous around you, laughter gives the body and mind a chance to unwind and calm down a little bit.

So keep on making her laugh, because you are making her like you and more and feel more comfortable around you at the same time!

Constant Eye Contact

You’ve noticed her looking at you. She makes eye contact with you even when it is you who isn’t talking to her. You catch her glancing at your direction for no particular reason.

Again, there is no such thing as a coincidence in the world of women! They are forever eternally plotting, so if she’s looking at you, she is doing so for a reason.

Usually with shy girls when you catch them looking at you, they feel even more anxious and shy. This means they’ll look away extremely quickly then try to make it look like they were never starring at you in the first place.

This whole cat and mouse game of starring at one another can get a little bit creepy. If you want to make her even more nervous, when you catch her looking at you offer your biggest and most charming smile, or, as we mentioned earlier, you could just go ahead and ask her on a date already.

Just ask her... (duh)

There is really only one way to know whether anyone likes you or not, and it is to actually ask them. For shy girls, you want to cater a manner of being able to ask them that won’t absolute freak them out.

Think about what little you may know about the shy girl first. Does she like to read and/or write? Then consider sending her a note or email. Does she like coffee? Then ask her to meet a quiet coffee shop where you could ask her in an intimate setting.

Putting any girl on the spot as to whether she likes you or not could freak them out a bit. Just make sure to be polite and courtesy to them and let them know there is no pressure.

The worst that can happen is rejection, but in the end, that isn’t all that big deal. There are plenty of fish, shy and outgoing, in the sea.

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Written by Terrence Kennedy

Terrence Kennedy is the man’s man on a journey to self-discovery. A traveler, extreme sports aficionado, an observant wanderer, a DIY-Know-How, an ultimate outsider and a documentarist of culture, sex, dating, relationship, fashion, style and gentleman's etiquette. He has learned a lot through his escapades, and is happy to pass that knowledge on to you.