Terrence Kennedy
We’ve all experienced it, one way or another, but, what is the Friend zone? The short version is, ‘what you receive after failing to impress a girl you are fascinated by.
It is often thought that guys like to put girls in the friend zone; however, many girls put themselves in a guy’s friend zone without knowing. In a relationship, matters can get very complex and result in a friend zone being created.
For instance, a plus size princess may assume that guys are not interested in her so when she enters a relationship her insecurities hold her back instead of going after what she want. In the end, her own guilt puts her into the friend zone.
"Finding yourself in a friend zone may be as a direct result of your own fears and qualms..."
Finding yourself in a friend zone may be as a direct result of your own fears and qualms. This study reveals how people realize they are about to enter the friend zone.
How will you know you are in the friend zone? It may be difficult to know if you are in a friend zone if your relationship is smooth. When you wait until it is too late, you find yourself in a tight situation with little or nothing to do to save the relationship.
Below you’ll read signs that show your friendship is headed the ‘zone’ way:
What is the Friend Zone? Signs to Anticipate Before Being Totally Trapped In
Curling up on opposite sides of the couch...
Curling up in opposite sides of the couch is a trend often exhibited by people in the friend zone.
Girls love to curl up into a rigid ball on the other side of the couch while watching movies. If this tendency persists, it deprives you the unquestionable freedom for romance and your chance to build openness in the relationship. Sitting closer to each other ensures a sensual feeling circulates within you. It is easier to propose for a kiss when centimeters apart rather than meters away.
Staying under one roof and keep your bodies away from each other breeds friendship, but nothing romantic. Already your body language (curling up into a ball) sends signals that you don’t want to be close, you don’t feel like touching, you need your own space, etc.
When spending time together, for instance, watching a movie, there is no need to widen the gap between your attractive bodies. Keep close and feel free to ask or go for what you want. This way you can easily break the friend zone barrier and allow yourselves to explore the romantic part of your relationship.
Starting things off slowly...
Most people love to start things off slowly. Their main concern is developing a solid friendship first. However, as time goes, trouble develops getting past the whole friendship part. Their friendship grows stronger and hinders the romance. Some girls even feel safer being a guy’s best friend, a very comfy spot.
When the guy eventually begins dating someone else, is when you realize you’ve been in the friend zone for too long. When guys finally find a romantic match, they are quick at leaving the friend zone.
If you are fond of starting things off slower, you can opt out by accepting the vulnerability attached to being part of an intimate relationship. To get past this stage a few things must change to let love in. Taking things slower is not a bad option. The sole problem is stagnating at the friendship zone for a lengthy time without things changing. Watch out for the friendship zone signs and act fast to save the situation.
Are you on the lookout? This video exposes the common signs that will let you know where you lie in your friendship:
Terrified of the unknown
Acquaintances act in unique ways. Girls have this behavior of not telling guys they like them because they don’t want to put themselves out there. Even in a relationship, many girls fear to be the first one to admit that more is needed in the relationship. Instead, they prefer to relax and wait while pretending not to care.
Lying to someone is equally same as lying to oneself. So as you continue to lie in your friendship you are slowly barricading yourself in a safe zone and letting the friendship miss the mark.
Putting yourself out there in the best way will produce the wanted results. Anytime you self-express or self-promote know that you are in good company. Self-express yourself openly in any friendship and neglect the thought that people will judge you. Relationships that blossom explores the fear of the unknown by self-expressing their ideas and feelings.
Fear of rejection...
"It is very unfair to guys when girls build unseen walls of protection around themselves..."
Everyone has a fear of rejection. Even men fear being rejected by women. Having an intense fear of rejection will lead you to blockade yourself and making it difficult for guys to go through them.
Girls tend to curl into themselves making it difficult for their would-be boyfriends to get past the friendship zone with them. It is very unfair to guys when girls build unseen walls of protection around themselves. Your own fear may be someone’s choice. For instance, a beautiful girl fearing she will be rejected by men because of her weight, yet those men hitting on her have interests in chubby girls.
You can end your fears by accepting rejection and preparing for it well, instead of staying in the friend zone. Be ready to embrace rejection and leave the friend zone as you never know what lies on the other side of the friendship.
Are you unable to make the decision?
You may have the cutest girlfriend, but when friends meet you and ask why you are not dating then something is wrong. Your friends will always shame you by wanting you guys to be together.
Girls show uncertainty as they attempt to step out of the friend zone. She may be interested in being more than just a friend, but be unable to express herself. Once you step out of your relaxed zone, then you can willingly and confidently make a proposal. If you find yourself uncomfortable being just a friend, go ahead and let him know your intentions.
Men love to be told of the chemistry that exists between them and their women. When men are fully aware of the romantic intents of their lovers, they will end up coming up with endless suggestions where to take you out. They take on the next role of taking you to an actual date.
Within a short period and even years, you will be dating and explore other areas of your life where you need to get out of the friendly zone. Escaping the friend zone allows you to carefully analyze areas of your life where you feel changes are needed.You may realize you are not pushing for a promotion at work you are not publishing articles people want to read, etc.
Learn the one secret that will always get you out of the friend zone all the time.
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Final words...
It is common for people to hide behind their fears. It feels comfortable as opposed to taking bold steps, whereas, in reality stepping out of the easy zone will leave you more relaxed and satisfied. There is no regret in putting yourself out there. The only challenge is making the harder choice to step out of the cool zone and explore other things.