Terrence Kennedy
Since man first looked down at his erection, a strong and elusive question has been forming in his mind. What do women really want; and what turns a woman on.
This is a risky question and one that I’m sure you would agree there is no straightforward answer to. For all of our searching and boasting, the truth is that most men haven’t got a clue when it comes to a woman’s sexual arousal (even the ones that seem to have great luck when it comes to getting sex).
While there is no sure-fire secret or magic word that would instantly cause any woman within the range of you to drop their panties and beg for sex, there are ways in which you can gain a better understanding of her sexuality, so that you can give her what she needs to get there.
So, if you are looking for the perfect way to make her horny, perhaps I don’t have the answer you are looking for. I can, however, show you ways to make out and meet her sexual desires in such a way as to keep her fired up for better love making.
What Turns a Woman On: A Guide to Women's Sexual Complexities
The elusive question: Find out what it is
Does anybody remember that movie with Mel Gibson in it called ‘What Woman want’? It was terrible; but in all fairness, did cause men to start asking that very question.
Typically, we weren’t interested in their desire for security, protection, affirmation, and growth; no, we wanted to know whether clockwise or counter-clockwise would keep her horny.
We wanted to know what turns a woman on, and in our quest made the grave error of assuming they all want the same things.
Things such as these:
- The strong silent type
- Masculinity and protection
- Money and security
- A dozen screaming brats, pets and a house.
While these are all noble things to want in life, I have always struggled to see the connection between them and a woman’s sexuality; as though it could be bartered for with spoils and a family.
The bottom line is that women are sexually active mammals just as we are, and because of that it’s the small bouts of excitement that create a short-term sense of arousal in them, not the prospect of a long and happy life together as Hollywood would have us (and them) believe.
So, what is it that really turns them on?
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Being thoughtful will make her feel wanted, and make her want you
You might not know exactly what does it for her, but you can bet that just simply being nice and thoughtful will make you good headway. The bulk of Cosmopolitan's list of things that turn women on talks about acts of thoughtfulness.
Things such as:
- Cleaning the house in her absence
- Going down on her without expecting anything in return
- Making coffee in the mornings
These are simple expressions of care, and far from being chores will communicate your affections in a way that will fire her up with excitement.
Random acts of intimacy will keep her hot for you
Surprising her with kisses, walking up behind her while she is doing her makeup and rubbing her shoulders, or simply blowing her an unexpected kiss will break her thought patterns from the day’s mundane tasks and give her a moment to fantasize a little bit; and you being the instigator will likely benefit loads from this.
The important thing is not to expect sex after such an action. That would communicate to her that you are only in it for the action (which is usually a serious mood killer). Rather lead her into instigating it by showing just a little sexual affection.
Surprises beget surprises
She comes home from a hard day at work and just wants to unwind. When she opens the door, she is greeted by soft lighting, her favorite song and a lush bouquet of flowers.
This will immediately dispel any tension that has built up in her throughout the day and who does she have to thank for it; you.
Small surprises, as well as big ones show her that you care, and if done right will also show her how badly you want to make her feel special and sexy; something that most women find irresistibly arousing.
Besides, it is the very act of spontaneity that gets a lot of women going.
Take charge: She’ll love the power
Decide where you want to eat, which movie to see or where to go that evening.
How many times have you been locked in a circular argument with your wife or girlfriend that goes something like this:
“Where do you want to eat?”
“I don’t know, anything sounds good?”
“No, you choose…”
And so it goes...
What is she really asking for from you when she does this. She wants to watch you make a decision, to excursive your masculine power to know what you want and to set forth to get it.
This reminds her of how confident and capable you are; a sure-fire turn-on.
The morning ride: Take it slow
Sex doesn’t always have to be an energy-depleting marathon of difficult moves and short breaths, often the slow and intimate approach is the best.
It can be difficult though to determine what she is into at that particular time, she might want raunchy, noisy sex while you are offering her finesse. So how can you tell?
Well, timing is everything. When you both wake up in the morning, groggy, slow and probably horny from the night’s sleep, that is the time to pull her over to your side of the bed and begin making slow, lazy morning love to her.
Either the fire will build and soon you’ll be going at it like athletes, or the sex will continue in the same tone. Either way it is enjoyable for both of you and a great way to get her in the mood.
Making an effort with yourself
For all of our differences, men and women are similar in a very fundamental way. We both want to attract a partner who clearly takes care of themselves. I’m talking hygiene, dress, grooming, diet and exercise; the whole lot.
Take time to groom your beard, file your nails, style your hair and to smell good. Showing her that you are making an effort in your appearance will only make her want you more.
A lot of men (and women) land a partner, and then having felt the twang of success decide they no longer need to put in anymore effort. Would you be aroused by a woman who didn’t give a thought to her appearance? Probably not. So, make sure yours is in order.
If you need further convincing: Ask women how they feel about a man in a well-tailored suit.
They will give you a similar response to any man asked about a woman in sexy lingerie. This is a truth universally acknowledged, but somehow seems to have slipped the mind of a lot of men.
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Conclusion
So, what really gets a girl going? The answer may not seem as easy as we would hope it to be. But by simply understanding what it is that makes most women happy, and acting upon those wishes and needs, turning her on in accordance with her own sexual triggers, confidence and comfort will be that much easier.