Terrence Kennedy
“Where have all the hot girls gone?” is a question that circulates around this planet faster than the speed of light. The answer is usually, they have other things to do, they’re not into you, or they have already been snagged by some asshole down the line.
Although I’m sure that you would agree, they are out there in abundance, all you need to do is look up from your work at the coffee shop, gaze around at the grinding sirens in a club, or wonder how the biggest knob in your circle of friends managed to land a supermodel; and you’ll be able to convince yourself that you can’t swing a cat without hitting minx.
So, what if I told you that there is no reason to assume that none of them could be yours? Would you assume that I’m over-optimistic? Probably, but that could have more to do with you than me.
If you have been wondering (alone in front of your computer screen) why you can’t seem to get your pick of attractive girls, I’ve got some advice which might help you out:
How to Get Hot Girls: Bagging the 9's and 10's
Don't be Timid: Confidence is key
There are scores of blogs on the net, articles circulating in magazines and buzz-feed conversations out there which preach the power of confidence when it comes to attracting women.
We see it in nature, on TV, and in all social spheres: The alpha is sure of himself, knows his limitations, and most importantly, knows how to leverage a sense of confidence to make himself appear to have more value than others (and perhaps on a more manipulative note: more value than who you are trying to impress).
But there is a difference between being arrogant and confident, with a fine line in between; and it can make the difference between being a turn-on, and a turn-away. According to an article written by Ashley Fern on Elite Daily confidence in yourself can act as a display of power and knowledge, it encourages positive thinking, shows leadership and draws people to you; while personal experience leads me to think that arrogance has the exact opposite effect as it exposes all of your insecurities.
“But I’m not all that confident” you might say, and the secret is that not many people out there actually are. It’s not something you are born with, or indeed something that comes more easily for some than others.
Confident people tend to encourage themselves, bolster their own egos by acknowledging their achievements and being comfortable with their limitations; and those that have trouble with this, often find value in faking it.
But you are not faking it for the sake of the sassy would-be companion at the other end of the club, you are faking it for yourself. Keep it up long enough and you will feel confident, you will give yourself value, and will likely be able to use your newfound self-assurance to get what you want out of life.
Leveraging your confidence with hers
In 2005, a book published by Niel Strauss entitled ‘The Game’ came under plenty of fire for giving insights into the world of pickup artists in the US, exposing many of the manipulative tips and tricks that the author used to bag some of the hottest women in America.
While much of what he had to say seemed over generalized and pretty underhanded, there was a technique mentioned in the book termed ‘the neg’ which has been a powerful tool for dominance and persuasion used in business and social situations alike.
The neg works like this:
Take notice of a feature which clearly adds to the confidence of who you are talking to: their lips, eyes, perfect skin, perky features or carefully applied makeup are but a few examples.
Now, using your sense of self-assurance, you attempt to leverage theirs in a playful, albeit grounding manner, paying them a compliment carefully weaved with a minor criticism to shake their poise.
Here is an example:
You meet a girl at a bar, and she is stunning. She clearly takes exceptional care of every inch of herself, and you simply need to get in on some of that. So, you decide to pay her a compliment and say something along the lines of: “That dress looks amazing on you, but it looks a little uncomfortable.”
So, what you’ve done here, is you’ve expressed that she looks great, opening up a certain way of thinking for her about her outfit. But then, since it looks uncomfortable, is it too tight?
Does that mean her body is not quite as fit as she assumed it to be? But you’ve paid her a compliment, so it can’t be that bad but clearly there is still room for improvement.
This will quietly play on her mind (if she is as concerned about her appearance as you assume her to be), but coupled with a compliment, the remark will build in her a sense of something that she could offer you, which (because of the neg), no other guys would be interested in.
You have now knocked her down a few pegs, calling into question the beauty which she normally relies on to hold power over men, and since her spell seems to have a lesser effect on you, you might find that your confidence starts to build, which she will begin to find attractive.
You have now opened the gate and the rest is up to you.
Check out this video about the proper use of Negging and how to get hot girls:
Wind your jaw up, You're better than the others!
How many times have you seen an absolutely stunning girl in a club being doted over by a barrel of over-enthusiastic men who are all but falling at her feet and thought: ‘If those mugs with their popped collars and successful businesses don’t stand a chance, then why should I even try?’
Being over-accommodating in situations like this is where most men tend to fall short when trying to bag a hot girl. Try to remember that particularly attractive women are used to that sort of treatment, and the power it gives them over their pursuers likely bores them to tears.
So how do you stand out? By not being attracted to them, that’s how.
Check this video out:
A few years ago, I found myself in a particularly astute club in the city, where wealthy middle-aged men congregated in the hopes of picking up a young -hot girl; and there were plenty of them around.
I sat at a corner table with some friends and watched as every man there, clad in expensive suits chased after uninterested girls, emptying their fat wallets for free drinks in return for a nice smile and nothing more. It was pathetic.
I, dressed down in a gray hoodie and torn jeans combo arrived jobless and without a cent to my name, and pretended to be slightly irritated by the girls who were getting so much attention.
I made a point of ignoring them, and when the conversation came up, acted slightly disinterested. For a girl who was so used to being served on by the men around her, this simply wouldn’t do.
Suddenly I was getting the attention from them while middle-aged millionaires sat scowling at me from the bar where rows of shots awaited the girls who had lost interest in them, and were now congregating around me.
How did this happen? Well it’s quite simple actually:
In being disinterested in a beautiful woman, you are robbing her of a power which she holds over so many men, creating a sense of ‘wanting what they can’t have’. For a girl whose good looks have gotten her everything, this makes her uneasy and gives her a sense of chase which she may never have felt before.
It also sets you apart from the circus that keeps dancing around her, and that offer of something new is attractive to anyone who has been trapped in the confines of only ever needing to rely on their looks.