There are few things in this world quite as blissful as waking up in the early morning to a slow and lazy morning shag.
Besides being an excellent way to start your day, there is something so intimate in making love while half asleep, something pleasurable in jostling through the covers in a state of sloth, that it makes me wonder why mornings are not always the preferred time to have sex.
Unfortunately, convincing your better half to let go of her inhibitions through sleep crusted eyes and morning breath is not always an easy thing to do, especially if your woman is not a particularly bright-eyed morning person. But if you feel that the morning ride is something that is missing from your relationship, there are ways that you can make it all the more enticing to your partner, you just have to muster up the early morning energy to get them done, and know a little bit more about how to get her in the mood.
Let's start with a few things that might put your woman off in the morning:
Morning Sex: How to Get Her in the Mood
"A few things in this world quite as blissful as waking up in the early morning to a slow and lazy morning shag..."
There’s not enough time in the morning: so make time
In this fast-paced age we live in, most people barely have time to brush their teeth in the mornings, let alone take some time out to enjoy some sleepy sex after the alarm has sounded, there is very little you can do to get away with this.
To enjoy morning sex, it might be necessary for you to set your alarm clock about half an hour earlier so that you can give the two of you the time you need to get the deed done.
Worried about having to cut your fun short to rush off to work?
You’ll be happy to know then, that your testosterone levels peak in the mornings (hence the erectile surprise you wake up with daily), which will likely lessen the time and work required before you can finish up and get on with your day.
If neither of you has the time or energy to engage in full intercorse before you have to go sit in traffic, oral sex is also an incredibly pleasurable (albeit more rushed) way to start your day off well.
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She’s not at her sexiest: make her feel comfortable
Morning breath, a sore throat from snoring, bird-nested hair, red eyes and puffy cheeks will do nothing to make your lady feel sexy in the morning; and for plenty of women, this is an automatic turn off. Sort of kidnapping her and showering her in her sleep so that she wakes up fresh and ready, what can you really do about this?
The solution is actually a fairly simple one. Keep some mints in the bedside drawers or a bottle of water on the nightstand.
Mints will help with the smell of morning breath (and of course the taste), which will help her forget what her morning-self feels like.
Water will freshen the mouth, limit the amount of bacteria in it, and will refreshen you both when the deed is done. You could even be a gentleman and make her some tea or coffee while she sleeps.
If you are feeling particularly sensitive about your own morning state, try darting off to the bathroom to swig some mouthwash, but ideally you want to use as little energy on interruptions as possible.
Another good way around the smell of morning breath is to avoid kissing altogether, take her from behind or opt for reverse cowgirl; but spooning trumps them all since it keeps your morning breath directed away from each other, while still allowing you to sleepily make love without really needing to wake up enough to move around. (wink)
She’s too tired from last night: next time have a break
So you had amazing sex last night and you want to have another crack at it at sunrise, but she’s spent, you’re spent, and anything you try and attempt might just be a failure. There is only one solution here, and you might not like it.
Go to bed without having sex.
Before you think me crazy for making such an outlandish suggestion, hear me out:
Having no sex before bed doesn't mean you don't have to engage in some stimulating heavy petting, but try to have the willpower to go to bed without actually having sex. That will have you both going to sleep hot and flustered.
When you wake up, your first thought will likely be of the sex you nearly had last night, and so both you and her will be more likely to want it in the morning.
Remember too that while sex is amazing, proper sleep is important too. So if she needs those few extra minutes to lie in as a result of the hours of fun you had the night before, give them to her
She’s not in the mood: she’s probably distracted
How could one argue when someone says they are not in the mood for sex, especially those who are not morning people. But pinning the blame on unpredictable fluctuations in her desires won't solve anything. So here’s what you do.
Speak to her. Try and get her to ignore the day’s needs until after you have both spent a little quiet time together.
A lot of women, in fact, most people have a tendency to let their thoughts be taken up by the day ahead before they have even started it.
If she is the type to wake up and check her emails, then chances are that the reason she is not in the mood is because her mind is already at work.
So, keep the news off, store the phones away from the bed, and wake up together. You will both feel better for it whether she is in the mood or not.
Another good suggestion is to sleep naked. Pyjamas may be comfortable, warm, and in her case cute; but they don't allow for night-long skin contact which, believe it or not, would be stimulating both of you in your sleep, raising the chances that you’ll both wake up gagging for it.
There is too much light: keep the shades down
You know what really gets the day going? Jumping out of bed, pulling up the shades and letting all that morning sunlight enter the room.
Unless you have an insurmountable hangover and hate the sun, filling your bedroom with it is a good way to galvanize your competitive spirit, not your lazy morning-sex-drive.
Get her in the mood by maintaining a sleepy and chilled atmosphere in the bedroom.
Snuggle up behind her and spoon in the shadow of the curtains, and she’ll be far more likely to reciprocate than if the early morning city was glaring at her through the window.
Take your time, take it slow
If you consider yourself an energetic lover (or do now), then there is something crucial that you need to understand about the morning ride.
Regardless of where it goes, it always starts with sloth:
That is to say, it is slow, lazy and sleepy. Imagine being woken up vigorously, messily and energetically.
Aside from assuring that you will likely be in a terrible mood for a good portion of the day, it will probably also kill any chanced desire for sex you may have had.
Start very slow and even more gently. Kiss her neck to wake her up, cuddle her; then accelerate gradually if the need arises.