Terrence Kennedy
Breakups are painful...
No matter how long you were together or how old you are, breaking up with your girlfriend not only is painful, but it can damage your confidence as well. Most guys feel hopeless after breakups regardless of who decided to call it quits.
If you are struggling to truly let go of your ex, remember that you are not alone. A number of guys keep looking at the conversations they had with their girlfriends and this impacts everyone and everything around them.
An important thing to remember is that saying the phrase ‘I Still Love My Ex’ to your head over and over will only make it harder for you to look at tomorrow. If you remain stuck in this mess, you will not only lose your present moments but in a way your future as well.
How Can You Rid Yourself of “I Still Love My Ex” Syndrome?
"Most guys feel hopeless after breakups regardless of who decided to call it quits..."
Nothing can keep you from a happier tomorrow than dwelling on a past relationship or ‘I still love my Ex’ feelings. We’ve all been there at some point. You might be missing the good old days and this is painful. For you, it doesn’t matter who was right and who was wrong or what the circumstances were. All you know is that breakup hurts and you still love your ex.
Of course time is the best healer, but sometimes your breakup might be preventing you from moving on. How can you get over a bad past experience?
Well, the following are some of the most effective steps to facilitate the moving on process.
The List of Don'ts
Take a break up like a Man – Do Not STALK her!
Didn’t our time spent together mean anything?
Wasn’t I a wonderful partner?
Well, sadly you are not talking to her right now so let’s just get straight to point. The end of a relationship, no matter how long or how short, can be your worst nightmare. Also, getting over an ex can be the hardest thing in your life.
Regardless of whether breakup was the right thing to do or not, you need to clearly understand that holding to break up wreckage will only ruin your present as well as destroy your future.
Because your best interests are close to us, here is the best piece of advice we can offer you. STOP STALKING HER! Yes, you’ve read it right. You need to delete her from your social media accounts and this includes your Facebook, Instagram, And Twitter profiles. Remember, you will gain literally nothing by admiring her beautiful looking pictures.
What’s worse is that you might be thinking about getting help if you find her hugging another man!
Don’t Turn to Drugs or Alcohol
Despite what multiple Hollywood blockbusters might suggest, throwing yourself onto alcohol and drug binge may not actually help you get over your ex.
Yes, it may seem appealing to indulge in limitless whiskey and cocktails, but you can end up arrested or worse in a rehab that to feeling more depressed than ever before. Interestingly, the ultimate way to get over your ex is to start loving again.
Be hopeful that there is someone who is right for you and you will soon find that new love coming along. Remember, we are not suggesting that you jump onto another woman.
Take your time and find someone who treats you well and shares your values.
Stop Embarrassing Yourself with Public Announcements of Love
Okay so you were the one who ruined everything and now you cannot get over her. Well forget romantic gestures and stop trying to win her back. It was you who decided that the breakup was for the best so stick with your decision.
Remember, if you want to move past her, this is the right time you stop confessing your love. Also, being clingy at this stage will only indicate that your self-esteem is well below the line.
Anger Issues Won’t Help Either
It’s perfectly acceptable to feel a little angry, but abusive texts, physical confrontations and hate emails will only land you in trouble. What’s worse is that you will start losing other friends in shame.
Even if your brain says ‘I still Love my Ex’ and encourages you to burn her house down, it’s better if you turn your anger and aggression into something more productive.
You never know if you might need your ex’s help sometime in the future.
The List of Do's
Stop Feeling Sorry About Yourself
Crying over your ex is not a sign of maturity, knowing how to take care of your emotional well-being would make you a man.
You shouldn’t allow yourself more than 3 days of self pity. Even if you are still destroyed inside, put on a brave smile and face the world.
This video by Coach Corey Wayne can help you get over the post-breakup depression phase:
Show her what’s She’s Missing
Without a girlfriend, you may be wondering what can be done with spare hours of your day.
Well, now that you are single again, get back in the gym and revamp your wardrobe a bit. You can also think about getting a new haircut or getting your beard trimmed.
Remember that improving your physical appearance not only will make you feel good about yourself, but you show her exactly what she’s missing out on. Getting in shape is one of the best ways to improve your physical appearance and boost your self-confidence.
Not to forget, the gym is a great place to meet plenty of hot women which surely is a healthy way to eliminate all of that post-breakup stress and frustration.
Be Selfish
It’s possible to move over your ex when know all of your best qualities. Make a list of your strengths and convince yourself that you deserve better.
You’ll be surprised to see how easy and fulfilling it is to work on your best qualities and boost your self-confidence.
Don’t feel even remotely bad about only thinking about your own self.
Get Rid of Her Reminders
To flush your ex out of your system, you have to create new memories. Find a new spot where you can hang out with friends.
Also, clear everything that reminds you of her – this includes your Facebook photos, desktop wallpaper, letters, emails, text messages and even personal possessions. And before some of you ask, it’s fine to keep items that do not trigger any emotional connection.
As for rest of the junk like teddy bears and love letters, they need to go out of the house immediately.
Conclusion – ‘I Still Love My Ex’ Days are Gone, ‘It’s time to Go Cold Turkey!
After you’ve ended everything, you should seriously consider going cold turkey. After all, once a relationship is broken, it can never be the same again. By staying in touch with your ex or even her friends, you are only asking for trouble. As stated earlier, kick her out of your friend’s list on Facebook and stop following her on Instagram and Snapchat.
You also need to delete her phone number and stop sending her emails and text messages. Once you’ve taken these steps, you can successfully complete the process of moving on from an ex.