What is True Love? Finding Real, Lasting Relationship without Even Looking for It

Have You Thought About ‘What Is True Love?’

What does it feel like to be in love?​

Is Marriage real love?​

People generally seek a partner who would complete them or improve their life when they are seeking a new relationship. Even you would try your best to present yourself as the ideal prospect for your future partner – more importantly, an ideal version of what your future partner would have in mind.

Interestingly finding your true love or your soul mate requires a far more comprehensive approach than looking for a sign or compatibility check. In fact, to find true love, you're going to need to find your true inner self first.

When was the last time you sat on a comfy couch in your bedroom, looking at the trees outside and felt good about yourself?

Well, we think about countless things except our own self when we decide to close our eyes for a split second … Only if I poured my heart and soul into this relationship, I would succeed.

Sadly, only a few people in this world manage to find time for their own self. That’s true to its terms.

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"Finding your true love requires a far more comprehensive approach than compatibility check..."

You may be a good friend, a good partner, a good son, a good colleague and a good employee possibly all the same time, but all these are just one aspect of you.

The roles you play in life are one aspect of who you really are on the inside. So the question is do you know your inner self, i.e. the person who you really are on the inside? Remember that knowing your inner self is finding out your life’s purpose, your values, your motivation, your goals, and most importantly, things you stand up for.

As you can guess, finding your true inner self requires a high level of self-inspection and maybe, self-awareness. Of course, you will probably need quite a high level of self-awareness to know yourself on the inside and the process may seem daunting at first. However, you got to understand that nothing in this world is impossible.

Why do I need to find my true inner self in order to love true?

You will be surprised to know that people who are self-aware always succeed because they know what it takes to make a relationship successful. If your romantic relationship is stale, searching for true love seems futile. However, that’s only because you are approaching love all wrong.

What is True Love?​

Be Authentic and Display Your Best Inner Self

What does love feel like?​

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Perhaps the most important thing to bear in mind when looking for true love is that you need to find the wholeness within. Yes, stop looking for the perfect soul mate and find the missing parts of your true inner self. This might sound counter-intuitive, but that’s exactly how you can find your ideal partner.

We want to be with someone in order to feel happy and breaking up with a partner is painful. It feels as if a part of your own self is being torn. Remember that to find the right partner and figure out ‘what is true love,’ you must emphasize your true inner self. After all, if you expect people to love you with all your imperfections, you must first be willing to do it for someone else.


Don’t get caught in the act of pleasing others or doing what is popular or trending at that time. Instead, do what makes you happy and figure out what you want to get out of life.

The good news is that being 100% real, 100% authentic and 100% yourself can help you attract the right kind of people in your life.​

Life’s not as serious as Your Mind, Lighten Up!

When was the last time you had a good laugh? Of course, it’s good to be serious while focusing on important things in life, but having a stressed brain would lead you nowhere.

Best Selling Author Shawn Achor in his book describes the Happiness Advantage. His extensive research reveals how happiness can fuel success and make your brain more creative, motivated, energetic, resilient and productive at work.

Another interesting thing to note here is that happy and positive people develop stronger connections. So, don’t allow yourself to be consumed by negativity, stress or harmful emotions like sadness, anger, depression and jealousy. Once you fill your mind and life with happiness and positivity, you will effortlessly attract the right kind of partner.

Attract true love into your love with this Guided Meditation video by Dauchsy:​

The Quest to Answering ‘What is True Love’ Starts with Changing Yourself

The following are some basic steps that will help you understand ‘what is true love’ and find your true soul mate.

​* Find the missing parts of you

As stated earlier, you need to connect with your true inner self. Moreover, you can only connect with your real self when you are self-aware. Find out what you want to achieve in life and how you can get there.

Also, start living life that’s meaningful to you and stop following someone else’s rules and ideas about what you should do. Being self aware also means more aware of your goals, objectives as well as your strengths and weaknesses.

​* Belief that you deserve to be loved

A side effect of trying to appeal to an imagined partner is that you start judging the superficial aspects of your appearance. If you are unable to find the right person, you start believing that you’re not good enough or love worthy.

Well, if you don’t believe you’re worthy of love, why would someone else think about loving you? Remember, true love is all about tapping into what feels right for you.

When you do something you are truly passionate about, you will make a seamless and organic transition to your more beautiful self. What’s better is that you will also become more attractive to your soul mate.

The bottom line is that you should stop sabotaging yourself with negative beliefs if you want to find true love.

​* Develop the qualities that you seek in others yourself

Most romantic relationships usually involve intense attraction.

Simply put, there will always be certain qualities that would make the other person more desirable. If you are about to start a relationship, it’s good not to create a stubborn tunnel vision.

Of course, you can put together a long list featuring qualities you like and qualities you don’t like in your partner, but make sure you have the desirable qualities yourself, not the bad ones.

Often we expect our partners to be perfect and never give them the benefit of doubt. If you want your partner to love you wholeheartedly, learn to accept your strengths and weakness and more importantly, stop over analyzing everything. The good news is that qualities can be worked upon and improved pretty much with every passing day.

Just ask yourself a simple question – “am I honest and sincere with myself?” Remember, the day you start expressing yourself in full integrity, you can find true love and make your romantic relationships bloom freely.

To conclude...

Just as each person is unique, the way your true love unfolds will be unique too. Love yourself more, learn to accept your true self and live your life fully, and you will be able to find true love without trouble.

Terrence Kennedy

Written by Terrence Kennedy

Terrence Kennedy is the man’s man on a journey to self-discovery. A traveler, extreme sports aficionado, an observant wanderer, a DIY-Know-How, an ultimate outsider and a documentarist of culture, sex, dating, relationship, fashion, style and gentleman's etiquette. He has learned a lot through his escapades, and is happy to pass that knowledge on to you.

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