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How To Get Laid On Tinder

Tinder is a dating app, or better yet a ‘hookup’ app, that has taken much of the world by storm. It has totally revolutionized online dating as well as the way men and women interact with one another.

The budding popularity of Tinder has got men signing up. With the wide range of pretty girls you get to see in the app each day, it’s becoming hard to put the phone down and stop scanning. Surely there’s someone out there for each guy. Although everyone has been talking about how great Tinder is and how easy it is to find a girl in the app, the big question still remains, how do I get laid on Tinder? But before we talk about the fun part, here’s something about Tinder every user should know.

How To Get Laid On Tinder


Essentially, Tinder has shunned the traditional model for dating websites, and instead is focused virtually entirely on looks. The way it works is that it shows the user other profiles in their area. The user then looks at the other person’s profile, consisting mainly of pictures and a short blurb, and decides if they like them (done by swiping right on their phone) or if they want to pass (by swiping left). In the event that two users both like one another, it will register as a match, and communication will be opened between the two.

How to Get Laid on Tinder​

As you can clearly see, Tinder isn’t like OKCupid, PlentyofFish, or other popular online dating sites. This means that your approach to Tinder needs to be different from these traditional online dating sites. Instead of going down the traditional dating path, you should be looking to:

  • Get a girls attention
  • Get her number
  • Then meetup as soon as possible
  • Go for the lay

It almost sounds too good to be true doesn’t it? Simply match with a girl, get her number and then hop into bed together, right?

Easier said than done.

In fact, majority of the guys don’t have the same luck in Tinder compared to men tagged as attractive in the society. Feeling out of luck? Don’t fret, we’ll show you exactly what you need to not only win a date but to get her in bed too!

The Types of Men Who Will Get Laid on Tinder

There’s plenty of guys out there getting laid through Tinder, but who are they? To understand this question, you have to have a firm understanding of the app itself.

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For instance, Tinder only shows users within a certain distance. So if you live 11 miles outside of a major urban center like New York City, and most girls aren’t willing to go more than 10 miles, you’re out of luck. And the further you get outside a major city, the less girls there will be for you to match with. This means that men who live in urban areas have a huge advantage.

Another thing to consider is the age bracket. Women can choose what ages they want to come up in their queue and if you fall outside of this range you’re out of luck. Younger guys fare better for this reason, although there’s really nothing stopping you from “changing” your age to fit a more desirable demographic (Don’t worry we won’t tell).

After you show up in a girl’s profile, you need to make sure you’re looking your best. This is because while smooth game and ​being an Alpha male will take you far in the real world, women on Tinder don’t get to see that side of you. Good looking guys have it made here.

Even if you’re not the best looking guy, you can still make your Tinder profile work for you:

How to Set Up a Tinder Profile that Kicks A$$

On Tinder, you can’t even speak to a girl until she matches with you. And to do that she must find you physically attractive—there’s really no getting around. Even if you’re incredibly witty and funny, or have millions in the bank, a girl is only going to stare at your profile for a few seconds and in that time frame she’ll decide if she thinks you’re hot or not.

This means that first impressions count, a lot! Fortunately, there are a number of things you can do to maximize your attractiveness in that short window women see your profile.

  • Look Good in Pictures: Because your photos play such a huge role, everything has to be there: Style, nice smile, hair done. You may even want to consider having some professional photos taken as they can ensure good lighting and framing, for example.
  • Show Off Your Body: It’s a no-brainer that most girls appreciate a nice body but at the same time they are not much of a fan of bathroom selfies either. So how do you show off your body without scaring girls off? Wear some form-fitting clothes. Fit enough to show your defined body but loose enough to leave them wanting to see more!
  • Have Fun: Girls want to see guys that have an awesome life that they can be a part of. For example, take pictures of you engaging in your hobbies, whether it’s playing guitar or sitting on a motorcycle. This is what separates you from the majority of guys out there.

Tinder gives you the option to have up to six photos, but this isn’t necessary and may even work against you. You should only have a few pictures; you don’t need to put your whole Instagram account up. You should diversify your photos, perhaps using one for each of the three points above.

As far as what to avoid, don’t ‘try too hard’. This means not begging a hot girl to take a picture on your arm, or posing in front of somebody’s convertible, trying to pass it off as your own.

Matching With the Best Girls in Your Area

After you’ve taken the time to set up your profile to make yourself look great, the next step is to increase your volume of matches. Essentially what this means is that you want more girls to see your profile, as you’ve already done everything you can to make them swipe right.

Three girls chatting with their smartphones on Tinder

Again, girls use the filters to find the men that most appeal to them; you want to do the opposite. Expand the distance range for your matches as this will give a wider range of women. You can even expand the age range of women you want to meet, although that’s completely up to the individual as not everyone is into cougars or older women in general.

Another critical factor is how frequently you swipe right. Although Tinder isn’t very time consuming, you can reduce your time on it even more by simply swiping right to every girl.

Although some men may look at this as lowering their standards, you have to keep in mind that just because you match with a girl doesn’t mean you have to sleep with her! Once you match with a girl, you can decide if you’re interested. If not, then you’ve only wasted a few seconds.

How to Talk to Women in Tinder

Getting matches on Tinder can be tough, but once you do get a match you’ve got your foot in the door. And think of it this way: When you match with a girl, it’s an indication that she’s attracted to you—how’s that for a start?

So since there’s already a mutual attraction, there’s no need to do anything crazy, like send a picture of your ‘man parts’ to her right away—talk to her like you would talk to a girl at a club or in a bar. This means making small talk, but not asking the same old boring questions. Show her you’re a fun, cool guy, but don’t try to be a pickup artist either.

Although we’ve mentioned that Tinder is often associated with hooking up, that’s not always the case. So if you treat every interaction as if you’re looking for instant sex, you’re going to scare off a lot of girls. With that said this can be an effective strategy for weeding out girls who aren’t DTF (Down-To-Fuck), but if your goal is to maximize quantity this should be avoided.

When it comes to making a conversation, keep it light and fun. A good rule of thumb is to avoid sounding like every other guy out there. Because girls get tons of matches every day, you can bet that they get spammed with messages. You have to find a way to stand out and make her smile.

For example, most guys ask lame questions like, “How was your day?” A better way to phrase a question like this would be to say, “So what kind of trouble did you get into today ?” You can easily turn typical ‘How do you do’ questions into jokes by adding teasing or sexuality.

Perhaps the most important thing to keep in mind is to have a plan. This means that from the time you match with a girl, to the time you’re texting her, you need to know what you want from the interaction.

This is for a number of reasons. One of which is so that you know what to answer when girls ask what you’re looking for. You want to indicate that you’re not looking for anything serious, but at the same time you need to convey that you’d like to do more than just get in her pants. For example, you could say, “I’m just looking to have fun, then I’ll see where things go.”

How to Score a Date with a Girl From Tinder

How To Get Laid On Tinder

Now that you’ve got her attention in Tinder, it’s time to take it to the next level and schedule a meetup. Be discreet in suggesting since you don’t want to scare her off by taking things too fast.

Because Tinder requires such a low investment, it’s harder to meet up with girls. Entertaining them on their smartphone is one thing, but getting them out in person is another.

To accomplish this, you really have to get her interested and attracted. You can lure her out by telling her that you know an awesome bar with really great beers on tap. Or you can tease her sexually, saying something along the lines of “You probably haven’t gotten laid in months.” If she hasn’t, then she has all the more reason to grab a drink with you and see where things go.

It’s going to go beyond just looking good, and throwing out a few lines. Be irresistible. Make her want you so bad she just has to see you in person.

A good method is after messaging back and forth on Tinder, is to ask for her phone number. Once you start texting, a girl is going to feel like she has more rapport with you.

After continuing the conversation, ask her if she would like to hang out sometime. Don’t make a big deal of it—just drinks, or something casual.

Getting Laid

How To Get Laid On Tinder

Some people say it’s harder to build a relationship off of Tinder than it is to get laid, and it’s not hard to see why. We’ve already discussed why Tinder is built for getting laid, but using the app alone won’t get you laid. You need to have a plan.

You need to make sure you’re sexualizing your interactions. This doesn’t mean sending nude pics, rather it means using sexual language and making subtle remarks that allude to sex. By doing this, you can gauge how receptive a girl is to hooking up.

A good question to ask girls is, “So what brings you to Tinder?” Most girls are going to be coy, and it’s unlikely that any girls is going to come right out and say she wants to have sex. That said, girls will give you some hint, and say things like “I’m not looking for anything serious right now.” Although this doesn’t imply she’s willing to spread her legs ASAP, it does mean she’s not opposed to it.

Say something along the lines of, “We should grab a drink or three sometime next week. How’s Tuesday sound?” It’s better to jump into specifics sooner than later, as it makes girls less likely to flake.

You can’t beat around the bush forever. In fact, the longer you wait to meetup, the less likely you are to get laid.

Unlike building relationships, when it comes to sex girls aren’t thinking about the long-term. They’re thinking about short-term pleasure, and the longer they wait to do it the more objections they’ll come up with.

When meeting up, you should choose a bar close to either your place or hers. This is because the close proximity will allow you two to get some privacy after the date.

Also, a bar is by far the best choice. Drinking alcohol loosens people up and reduces their inhibitions, making the girls less likely to object to sex. Plus, if sex is already implied, you don’t need a fancy date—it’s pretty much just a formality.

Throughout the date, you need to be moving things forward. Be aggressive, make moves and turn the interaction sexual through touching and eye contact.

After a drink or three, suggest going back to whoever’s place is closer. It’s important that you have a reason to be going, beyond sex. You can’t verbalize your intention to have sex, because that only gives girls a reason to object your invitation. What you need is an excuse to invite a girl back that she can use to justify in her own mind beyond just sex. Tell her about some awesome pictures you took on a recent trip or an amazing bottle of wine she just has to try.

Once you’re back at your place or hers, don’t take too long to get down to business. Within a few minutes make your move ​and give her the best sex of her life. You’ll certainly keep her coming back for more.

Next Steps

To really get the most out of Tinder, we have created the very best Tinder infographic on the web. We take you through every aspect of this app that you could possibly need to know.

To start, we show you the ‘Truth’ about guys getting laid on Tinder–don’t believe the hype!​

Next, we break down the keys to a killer profile. Remember, because Tinder is so focused on visuals, you need to make sure your profile is looking sharp.

From there, it’s all about putting your profile to work. It’s time to swipe right, and get more matches then you can handle.

Once you’ve got your matches, it’s time to introduce yourself. We show you exactly what you need to say and how to say it to get these girls off your phone and out on a date, or even straight to the bedroom.

Finally, to take it to the next level, we’ve provided ou with the best resources from Tinder around the web. After you’ve taken the time to read this infographic over a few times, you’re going to be ahead of all your competition. And for even more details, of course, we have this whole article for you to read!

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Written by Terrence Kennedy

Terrence Kennedy is the man’s man on a journey to self-discovery. A traveler, extreme sports aficionado, an observant wanderer, a DIY-Know-How, an ultimate outsider and a documentarist of culture, sex, dating, relationship, fashion, style and gentleman's etiquette. He has learned a lot through his escapades, and is happy to pass that knowledge on to you.