Mark Greene
Tinder tips
1. Don’t use selfies for your profile picture.
Based on current data, women who upload selfies to their dating profiles get lots of matches, while guys who use them don’t get as good results. On average, men with selfies in their dating profiles receive 8% less messages than the average. However, since a photo is very important for forming the initial connection on apps like Tinder, you should still upload a good photo of your face. Try to avoid group photos, as a lot of women are likely to skip your profile rather than spend a few minutes trying to work out which person in the photo is you. A good headshot is the secret. If you don’t have a friend who can take a good photo of you, try using the timer photo function on your phone to set up the perfect shot.
2. Upload other relevant photos.
Many guys upload photos of their motorcycles, gaming setups, trucks, and cars to their Tinder profiles. We understand, you bought your car to show it off and you are proud of it – that’s not the problem. A lot of women love cars too, but when you only have limited photos to showcase who you are, do you want to waste one of the photos on your car? Ladies want to learn more about who you are, rather than what you drive. The same applies to photos of fish you’ve caught, poses with weapons, etc. Photos with guns can easily be misinterpreted. Remember, you’re trying to attract women, not impress other men. Choose photos that reveal more about your personality.
3. Share information about yourself.
A profile bio that simply states “Message me” is unlikely to give anyone a big incentive to swipe right. While you might look super hot in your profile pic, if the bio doesn’t say anything about you, you can come across as boring. You don’t have to share your entire life story in your bio; you just need to write a few lines that will leave people wanting to learn more. Talk about some of your hobbies and passions, or outline how your perfect Friday night plays out. You might want to ask a female friend to help you craft the perfect bio. Don’t be afraid to check out example bios from other successful Tinder profiles.
4. Avoid negativity.
A recent informal poll asked women what turned them off the most when looking at men’s profiles on Tinder. The things women found the most aggravating where bios featuring a list of all the things a guy doesn’t want in a partner, and bios listing Tinder pet peevers. Perhaps you’ve been hurt in the past, or you’re just sick of Tinder matches who want to chat for weeks before meeting up, so you think it’s best to be proactive and protect yourself from future frustrations. However, when you have statements like “I’m not looking for a penpal!” or “No drama, please!” in your bio, you can come across as negative and picky – not the best first impression.
5. Don’t be rude.
It might seem obvious, but common courtesy is often underused on Tinder. Try to avoid talking about sex straight away. “DTF?” is unlikely to get many responses if it’s the first message you send. While Tinder might have started off as a casual hookup app, it has evolved into a richer dating platform. If you are only using Tinder for casual sex, you need to find people who make it clear in their profiles that that’s what they’re looking for too. For all other profiles, exercise some basic decency during conversation openers.
6. Put some effort in.
Your opening message is key, so make it more interesting than “Hey”. It shouldn’t take long to look over someone’s profile and write a more personalized opening message. Ask for more information about something interesting you notice of a match’s profile, or make a witty comment about some of their photos. If you like movies, you could ask them about the last movie they went to see or what their all-time favorite movie is.
7. Have fun and be kind.
It’s never a good idea to take Tinder too seriously. Let yourself have fun. Set out with the intention of having a good time and maybe meeting some great people. With a positive outlook, you’re sure to strike lucky eventually. So, whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship, a hookup or something else, make the search for the perfect match part of the fun.
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