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How To Improve Your Physical Relationship

Improve Your Physical Relationship

Sexual problems are easier to treat now than in the past. Medications as well as therapy are available to provide professional assistance. But before you make an appointment with a doctor or therapist, there are a few changes that you can make to your lovemaking style that may resolve an issue that you may be having.

Physical Relationship

1. Education

There are plenty of materials available both online and in print format that address just about every sexual problem that exists. Pick some reading material that is relevant to your unique problems and read these to find out more about the causes and treatments that are available.

Share the information with your partner so that they can also become better informed. If talking about sex is too difficult, underline passages or lines of text that are especially significant and give these to your partner to read. A problem that is shared is a problem that is halved.

2. Take Your Time

Sex drive and responses decrease as we age. Find a comfortable and quiet area that will be free of interruptions. Keep in mind that the physical changes that your body goes through over time means that it may take longer to become aroused and to orgasm. This should however be seen as a benefit rather than a problem because spending more time having sex is better. So slow down and allow your body to enjoy the experience of taking more time making love and experiencing a different side of sex.

3. Lubrication

Perimenopause (the period before actual menopause) can begin as early on as the 30’s for some women. This results in vaginal dryness that can make sex uncomfortable or even painful. Lubricating gels, creams, lotions and liquids are a simple way to resolve this issue. Use lubricants as much as needed and integrate them into enjoyable foreplay or other new experiences. If lubrication doesn’t resolve dryness or discomfort, consult a doctor.

4. Physical Affection

Kissing, cuddling, holding hands and other shows of physical affection strengthen an emotional and physical bond. Make the effort to practice physical affection even if you are stressed, tired or simply don’t feel like it.

5. Practice Touching

Sex therapists often recommend sensate focus techniques to reignite physical intimacy without the pressure. There are a wide range of self-help books, pictorials and videos available that provide similar techniques and exercises to practice touching. Asking your partner to touch you in the way that they want to be touched is also a good idea. This will give you a better idea of where to touch, how to touch and the amount of pressure that should be applied – gentle or firm.

6. New Positions

The same sexual position may be familiar and comfortable but can become boring. Trying new positions offers the opportunity to experience new sensations. For example, entering the vagina from behind can increase the stimulation of the G-spot. A different position can also help overcome a range of sexual problems.

7. Fantasize

Write down your sexual fantasies. This will give you a better idea of what turns you on and what doesn’t. Think about a moment in a book or movie that you found stimulating. You can share these fantasies with your partner and may even want to put them into practice. This exercise can be especially helpful to those with low libido or sexual desire.

8. Kegels

Kegels exercise the pelvic floor muscles and can improve sexual fitness in both men and women. The exercise is performed by contracting the muscles that you would use to stop urinating mid-flow. Hold the contraction for a few seconds and release. Repeat 10 times or more and do 5 sets at different times of the day. You can do these exercises just about anywhere as they are unnoticeable to others. 

Women can add vaginal weights to increase resistance while performing kegels. Your sex therapist or doctor will be able to provide these weights.

9. Relaxation

Stress and tension are not good for the libido. Relaxing activities like yoga, breathing exercises, playing games or going out for dinner before sex can relieve stress and tension.

10. Use A Vibrator

A vibrator is a good device for a women to explore her own sexuality. Understanding her sexuality can help her share with her partner what she likes. There are also plenty of sex toys for men – check out the top men sex toys

11. Persistence

Don’t give up. If none of these techniques work, there may be underlying cause or medical condition. Your doctor or therapist can diagnose these problem and provide the appropriate treatment. In the event that medical treatment is not helping, your doctor will provide you with contact information for a sex therapist. A therapist will help you explore the issues that you may be experiencing and provide practical techniques for a healthier and more fulfilling sex life.

Written by Mark Greene

Mark Greene is writer and life coach dedicated to helping men to perform at peak level. He shares dating advice, style tips and strategies for building wealth and success.