Help Your Partner With Erectile Dysfunction
Things are heating up in the bedroom after date night. But when it finally comes time to do it, your partner pauses and tells you he can’t get it up.
Wait, what’s happening? Does he not want to have sex with you and is trying to let you down gently? Why can’t he get hard?
In this article, we’ll be explaining what erectile dysfunction is and why your partner might be experiencing it. We’ll also go through the different ways you can help your partner with his ED.
Take The Time To Understand
In order to support your partner with his ED struggles, it is important that you understand what it is and the reasons why your partner is experiencing it.
So what is erectile dysfunction?
ED happens when your partner is unable to get hard or maintain an erection for sex. ED is actually quite a common thing for men to experience as it can be triggered by factors like being exhausted after a long day, drinking too much booze or taking certain kinds of medication. These can all prevent the necessary blood flow to the penis for an erection to happen.
There can also be physical causes or psychological causes of ED. Physical causes are often the most common reason for ED. They often include pre-existing health conditions like cardiovascular disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes. All of these issues can prevent the necessary blood flow to the penis for an erection to happen.
Psychological issues are less common reasons for ED. They include mental issues like anxiety, stress, depression, or just simply being too nervous to have sex. They can cause ED by disrupting the necessary signals in the brain to get hard and maintain an erection.
Your partner might feel embarrassed that he can’t get it up and feel that he is disappointing you. It is key that you remind him that ED affects millions of men and that he’s not alone in his flight. And while ED is a common problem, there are plenty of effective treatments available.
Communication Is Key
When your partner is unable to get hard, he might feel incredibly embarrassed and guilty that they close themselves off. You might misinterpret this as a sign of rejection, and feel unwanted by your partner. While having a conversation about ED is hard, it is important you two talk openly about it as this can prevent any miscommunication or feelings of resentment.
While it’s understandable you feel annoyed or frustrated, it is important that you don’t pressure your partner into performing. This could end up being a counterproductive move as embarrassment and guilt are common causes of ED. Pressurizing him and making him feel bad can create a self-perpetuating cycle where he might not be able to perform the next time.
Remind him that he is loved and that it’s perfectly normal for men to struggle with ED occasionally. ED can be caused by various reasons and could even be caused by the drinks you two had during date night. While it does suck, it’s not the end of the world and you can try again when he’s feeling more up to it.
While sex is definitely a great way to be intimate with your partner, don’t think of it as the only way to be close. Having a make out session or even having him go down on you are great ways to connect.
If your partner’s up for it, you could even perform oral on him. This shouldn’t be a way for him to get hard but to help him get some pleasure. He might still be a little frustrated with himself so you should reassure him to relax and enjoy himself as much as possible, with no pressure attached.
Get Moving During Your Dates
In order to help your partner improve his ED, you two must first determine the root cause of his ED. ED can be caused by unhealthy habits like eating too much, drinking tons, smoking and not regularly exercising. If your partner is a heavy smoker or drinker, you should encourage them to quit smoking and drink in moderation. This will not just help improve his ED, but he will also improve his overall health.
If he doesn’t regularly exercise, you could plan date nights to incorporate fun physical activities together – like dance classes or biking in the nearby park. Exercising can help reduce his stress levels and improve his mental health as well.
Spice Things Up In The Bedroom
Don’t let the lack of an erection stop you two from enjoying yourselves in the bedroom! Experiment with different kinds of foreplay and maybe even introduce new sex toys to the bedroom.
Consider getting a cock ring to keep the night going! Cock rings are ring-shaped sex toys worn around the base of the penis. They help with ED by putting pressure around the base of the penis. By slowing the blood flow from leaving the penis, your partner can get hard and stay hard for longer.
While cock rings are great for keeping blood within the penis, they might not be as effective if your partner has issues getting enough blood flow to his penis in the first place.
You can also consider penis sleeves to help in the bedroom. Penis sleeves are hollow, penis-shaped sex toys meant to be worn over the penis. The idea behind penis sleeves is that they can provide both girth and firmness when entered into the vagine or anus, bringing both of you pleasure even without an erection. Given the many varieties of penis sleeves available, you could even get a textured one or one that vibrates to enhance the experience.
Seek Treatment With A Medical Professional
It is worth convincing your partner to consult a medical professional to get the treatment he needs. After determining the cause of the ED, a doctor could recommend oral ED medications like Viagra or Cialis. These medications are effective ED treatments as they help increase the blood flow to the penis, which helps your partner get and maintain an erection. Do note that these medications only work if he is aroused.
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