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5 Ways to Play Hard to Get with a Girl You Really Like

Play Hard to Get with a Girl You Really Like

Have you ever felt like playing hard to get was the only way?

The hard to get act can make you seem intruding and alluring. It’s quite the opposite of putting yourself out there and sending desperate vibes. 

And the truth is that it can work very well, but it can also backfire famously. Because if that girl really believes you’re out of reach, she may shut down.

So, here are five ways to play hard to get with a girl you really like.

Play Hard to Get with a Girl You Really Like

1. Set limits

Playing hard to get is all about setting limits on the amount of attention you’ll give to your crush. You want to pay some attention to her, but if you overdo it, you’ll run the risk of seeming desperate. 

This is going to be a difficult balance to strike at first, so be ready to test the waters. Play around with different levels of attention to find what’s “just enough” to keep her interested without thinking you’re needy.

2. Avoid sexual pressure

If you’re looking to stand out in your crush’s mind, don’t push the issue of sex. If you’re casually dating, treat the relationship as casual and take things slowly. When you’re at the level of hand-holding or kissing, keep it there for a little while. 

The benefit of waiting is that you can allow anticipation to grow as you get to know each other. Again, there’s going to be a balance here. 

If the wait seems to be causing issues between you, you may be pushing the limits of what she sees as too long. It’s important for this girl to desire you and feel desired at the same time. So be sure you’re showing enough interest.

3. Take cues from the onion

With an onion, you have to peel back the layers before you get to the middle. And some say it should be the same for romantic relationships. When you lay everything out on the table, there’s little mystery. Your crush will instantly know what you’re all about and the thrill of the chase is over. Instead, allow her to peel back your layers and get to know you slowly.

Always be yourself, but you can avoid divulging too much too soon to your benefit.

4. Live your own life

You could play hard to get and sit home every night waiting for her to call, but that’s no more appealing than being overeager. While you’re waiting for her to fall in love with you, live your own life. 

Cultivate your own interests and hobbies. If she’s interested in someone who is playing hard to get, she’s probably looking for someone independent and confident. Work on being those things for her and for yourself.

5. Stay within reach

The point of playing hard to get is to create mystery and interest, but you do want her to be interested in you. So you’re going to avoid reaching out as much as you may want, but you probably want to remain available when she needs you. You want to help her feel safe without going overboard with attention.

Playing hard to get works really well with some girls, but follow these tips to ensure it doesn’t backfire for you.

Written by Mark Greene

Mark Greene is writer and life coach dedicated to helping men to perform at peak level. He shares dating advice, style tips and strategies for building wealth and success.