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First Impressions – What Not To Do On A First Date

Navigating the world of dating can be incredibly daunting – particularly for those who are either new to it or have just come out of a long-term relationship and feel a little out of practise. If you’d like to increase your chances of getting through your date in one piece and coming out the other end looking like a normal person, then this is the article for you. We’re going to talk about first impressions and what not to do on first date!

What Not To Do On A First Date

1. Do not be rude to staff

This is true whether you are on a date or not; you should never ever be rude to serving staff – or anyone for that matter. If you’d like to impress your date and come across well then you should treat the staff with respect. First impressions are everything, so be kind to the people serving you and demonstrate to your date just what a lovely and kind person you really are. 

2. Do not talk about your ex 

Talking about exes is fairly common in a new relationship but it’s not something that you should bring up on a first date. Speaking about exes or past sexual encounters with someone that you have only just met is a little too familiar. That, and if their first impression of you is to have to listen to you bitch about a previous partner, it’s not going to go down very well. 

3. Do not be glued to your phone 

In fact, unless you are expecting an urgent message or phone call you shouldn’t be checking your phone at all. Do not sit there and constantly check your phone on a date because it is quite possibly the rudest thing that you can do to a person – particularly if they are talking. 

4. Do not refuse to pay your way 

If you turn up to a date with no money expecting the other person to foot the bill then…well, let’s just say that you should take a long, hard look at yourself before pursuing a serious relationship. It’s 2022! If you want to be treated with respect, then you should afford the other person the same courtesy. 

5. Do not turn up late 

5-minutes here or there isn’t that big a deal, but if you leave your date sat wondering if you are ever going to turn up then you have messed up in a big way. Punctuality is important so make sure that you are prepared and give yourself plenty of time to arrive early – or on time at the least. 

6. Do not be too familiar 

Remember that you are meeting a complete stranger. You don’t want to be too forward and start talking about all of the kinky toys you recently purchased from a bondage shop. Sure, with any luck your date will go well and it turns out that they are just as kinky as you are, but if you start the conversation off by asking about their sexual preferences, most people are going to run a mile. Slow it down cowboy and perhaps ask them what their favourite movie is instead!

Written by Mark Greene

Mark Greene is writer and life coach dedicated to helping men to perform at peak level. He shares dating advice, style tips and strategies for building wealth and success.