Terrence Kennedy
You’ll agree with me that one of the most difficult things to do is to choose the right girl for a serious relationship.
Well, it sounds so easy until you decide to go girl hunting. You’ll find many guides out there on how to find the right girl some are misleading and some had pieces of truth in them.
The fact is, it usually revolves around some factors to be able to pick the right date.
In this guide, we’ve gathered snippets of truths which will help you know how to find the right girl for you.
How to Find the Right Girl for You
Recently, there has been a lot of talk about relationships. But until now it’s been majorly about how to make your relationship healthier with your sexual partner.
However, how do you go out there to pick the right girl you want to love in the first place? Difficult question huh? Well, you might have guessed correctly anyway- your ability to find the perfect match to date is significantly enhanced if you have a solid idea of how you want her to be like.
It’s been said all over that a rudderless ship has its destination on a reef. And that’s entirely accurate especially relating to the world of dating where you cannot afford to go wrong.
As well, we’ve heard the cliche ‘failing to plan is planning to fail’ and it is exactly what happens the moment you are not certain of what you want. Have you ever stopped to think about the kind of girl you want in your life?
Take a pen and paper or turn on your computer and craft precisely the properties of the girl you’d want to attract for your ideal relationship. Describe her thoroughly going into details from her personality to her physique.
Doesn’t matter whether or not you believe in the law of attraction or that setting goals doesn’t go beyond programming the subconscious mind. Either way, their efficiency has been established over time.
There’s an old Yale Survey, The survey showed that close to 70% of individuals who put down goals and even set updates to a friend achieved their goals successfully in comparison with the 35% who kept their goals to themselves.
There have been many related kinds of research since then that confirmed the effects goal setting can have on actually hitting those targets. One of such known studies is the Meta-Analytic fo effects of goals on task performance: 1996 -1984.
I have some good news for you: The girl that is your exact match, you know, the one you’re attracted to most of all the women you’ve met in your life, is the one that will most probably like you back. Consoling huh?
Well, the idea behind this is that it does happen because both you and the girl subconsciously realize that you’re an ideal match.
Check out this video by Annie Lala with regards to Attracting your ideal Partner:​
The elimination process ensures you trickle down to a specific taste
If you’re looking to get into a serious relationship, the first step you’d want to take is to ensure you do your homework on the person you are going to pursue.
Again, you want to do this early enough before your emotions blind you and not notice her major flaws.
Once you’re deeply in love with a girl who, initially was excellent and nice on initial dates, but later realized is a meth smoker or has a bipolar disorder who disappoints in every relationship because she believes she’s not worth anyone’s love, it might be a little too late to rethink.​
Finding the right woman calls for due diligence. Most online daters will tell you that the girl who seems like the perfect match online often turns out to be a completely wrong person.
You want to be in a relationship with someone you find attractive and has the qualities you admire. Then you must filter out your match by knowing how to qualify
Find out about the girl early enough
These are a few questions which will help you get a very deep access into her psyche early enough:
* Has she ever experienced an abuse of any sort?​
Well, this is not a question you’d want to bring up early on, and you may find it difficult to ask her blatantly or at least not without being extra careful with your words.
Note that girl who’ve undergone some rape ordeal at least once in their life usually make for complicated partners, and there are certainly some warning signs to look out for.
For instance, if she touches you a bit too much on the first time you flirt with her, then you already got the sign of such a type. It may not necessarily mean anything, but it’s something you may want to keep in mind.
Here’s a good content on Why Women Stay in an Abusive Relationship:
* Are her parents married or divorced?
While it may not be a make-or-break question, people whose parents have been married and are stable often tend to be more stable people in their own lives.
* What is her sense of deservingness?
As I had mentioned, if the girl does not believe, deep within her, that she deserves the best, then she’ll unconsciously sabotage anything good that will come her way, and that includes her relationship with you.
* What is her relationship with her family members especially her father?
The life and environment we grew up in substantially imprint us. Particularly by the roles, which were played out at the time.
For a girl, the most critical relationship was that which she had with her father. This relationship will often be reflected in all the relationships she will ever have with other men in her life.
* How Honest is she?
As I said earlier, it matters less whether or not her parents are still together. However, this can be a deal breaker. There’s no way you will ever have an excellent relationship with someone that is not honest with you.
There's no proper communication without honesty.
* Consider her past relationships because it’s quite telling
A girl’s past relationship is one sure indicator of how her future relationships are going to turn out to be since we all fall into patterns that we subconsciously repeat over and over.
You really want to particularly watch for the girls who've been in abusive relationships because, however much that is not their fault, attracting that kind of relationship is usually a red flag for more baggage underneath the surface.
In conclusion
Alright, up until now, you’ve found the girl and screened her accordingly. You however still need certain fundamentals of getting into a new relationship.
The bottom line is, you should never wait for it to happen! Do not wait for fate to present to you the perfect girl because you will wait forever.
I know some people have a belief in the ‘right girl coming along at the right time’ fairy tale. But the plain truth is that the guys who sit around to waiting for the right girl often wind up with some random girl that they eventually have a relationship with because there’s no hope of anything better coming their way.​
​Guys who wind up with the sharpest, smartest and hottest girl are often the ones who made a proactive effort to find one.
So there you have it, sitting around waiting for cupid to the job for you will mean missing out on a lot. Nothing is more exciting and comforting than the feeling of having the right girl and a healthy relationship.