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6 Killer Techniques on How to Develop Self Confidence

We all admire self-confident personalities and are often inspired by their buoyancy. They tackle their suspicions face-to-face and are known to be risk takers.

They know that no matter how close to difficulties they face, they have the capability to conquer them. Self-confident people are always optimistic about their lives, and love to see the positive side of life and are very respectful of others and themselves.

Wouldn’t it be great enjoying such unrivaled levels of self-assurance, every moment of the day? If yes! Then how do we develop confidence?

William Jennings Bryan, the renowned former U.S. Secretary of State, once said, “The way to develop self confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.”

It turns out that basic foundation of self-confidence is to believe in oneself. If you can’t believe in yourself, then no one will.

In today’s fast-paced world, you need to build self-confidence to conquer, inspire and grow. Below are powerful techniques well-known personalities have used to achieve admired confidence and respect.

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They know that no matter what difficulties they face, they have the capability to conquer them.

To only read them will not acquire self-confidence, but by practicing well daily until you feel the establishment of confidence grow within you. With proper practice, patience and determination, you will also start enjoying the fruits of self-confidence in the coming years –“a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment.”

How to Develop Confidence: 6 Killer Techniques​

Dwell on the positive and shun away negativity

To start increasing your self-confidence, begin by evaluating yourself, your inner circle, including family and friends. It is a hard decision to make but focus away from those individuals who disparage you and strip your confidence.

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Even taking a break from your favorite TV Show has a significant impact on building your self-confidence. Close your doors to activities that you feel have less impact on your general wellbeing.

Embrace working on positivity even when you feeling down. Positive enthusiasm has been proved to be a must-have trait for success. Channel and build your enthusiasm into your daily relations and always feel excited as you complete and commence new projects.

A good advice is to shift your focus away from your everyday life’s problems and work on building meaningful solutions that will end your challenges.​

Improve your body language

Body language speaks a lot about your confidence and is the foundation of any productive personal and professional relationship. Nonverbal communication —your gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, posture, and tone, speak the loudest and enhance your communication.

The simple free move of shrugging your shoulders or raising your eyebrows gives your listeners the impression that you are a confident person.

Smiling does not only elevate your happiness, but it also makes others feel comfortable around you. A good smile and great posture translate into self-confidence.

You can let others know that you are self-confident by maintaining eye contact and not looking at their shoes.

Confident people often speak slowly. Research has affirmed that individuals who take their time to articulate their words slowly and clearly feel more self-confidence and appear confident to others.​

Moreover, speaking slowly and clearly allows your listeners to understand what you are saying quickly. Body language requires you to go an extra mile and work on your general appearance.

Styling your hair, having a clean shave and dressing nicely makes others perceive you as successful and self-confident.​

Do this next time: When buying new apparel, practice wearing it at home first to detect any wardrobe malfunctions before going out to the public.​

Don’t accept failure and get over negative thoughts in your head

Never give up! Never close your doors! Never accept failure! There is a solution for every problem. The world has answers to every problem. So why give up on your struggles? Make this your new slogan

Succeeding through great hardship is a massive confidence booster. Low self-confidence is always as a result of endless mind-chocking thoughts running randomly in our heads.

If you are routinely assaulting yourself mentally, feeling you are not good enough, feeling unattractive, seeing yourself as not smart enough or athletic, etc. you are slowly nurturing a self-fulfilling prophecy that is detrimental.

You are slowly becoming the character you continually preach inside your head, and that’s not welcoming.

What should you do? Next time you hear that negativity in your head, transform it instantly into a positive assertion and keep it up until it gives your self-confidence a boost.

Always be prepared

As Angel Graff, author of self-confidence and healing books puts it, "Despite our best efforts; we can never predict what will happen next.

Being prepared for everything will improve our confidence and self-esteem.” Preparation plays a significant role in building one’s self confidence and healing process.

Achieve high levels of self-confidence by learning everything you need to know regarding your job field, presentations, projects, and so on.

Whatever you have included in your ‘to do’ or ‘conquer’ list ensure you understand everything that is there to learn. If you are prepared and have every resource you need to back up your list, your self-confidence will rise.​

Create a robust evaluation list

Sometimes life can be so challenging that it stresses you up beyond your expectations. Challenges can be overwhelming making it hard to keep our self-confidence up.

During such times, throwing in the towel seems like a possible outcome. To stop infuriating your mind, sit down and create a comprehensive evaluation list with all the things in your life you appreciate, and another long list all the things you are satisfied to have accomplished.

With your completed lists, find a strategic place in your house or office where you can post them to keep reminding you of what an exciting life you have and how amazing you are.

Refrigerator doors, on the wall by your desk, on your bathroom mirror, etc. can all be great places to post your lists to keep on reminding you who you are, and the amazing life you live.

Whenever your self-confidence begins to plummet, take a look at your lists and let yourself smile at your accomplishments and be inspired by your achievements. Science has proved that admiring our past accomplishments increases your self-confidence.

Do the things you are good at

It does not necessarily mean that you engage in all the activities that you can do perfectly, but choose those that hold your attention and requires you to focus keenly.

Such activities as dancing, swimming, running, cooking, climbing, painting, writing, etc. will help you get into that state of 'flow' where you forget everything else and focus on what you are currently doing.

Regularly engaging in such activities once per week will make you feel more proficient, accomplished and capable.

This routine will unveil you antidotes to feeling little confidence and regular practice will guarantee happiness and great success in your life.

Also remember that people who experience 'flow' often seem to be motivated, happier and healthier than those who do not.​

Supplement your readership with visual content: This amazing YouTube video on Brian Tracy’ success channel, a renowned and top motivational speaker with great inspirational tips to help you live the life you dream explains a few additional steps on how to how to develop self confidence systematically


I leave you with Ralph Waldo Emerson quote that says, “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

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Written by Terrence Kennedy

Terrence Kennedy is the man’s man on a journey to self-discovery. A traveler, extreme sports aficionado, an observant wanderer, a DIY-Know-How, an ultimate outsider and a documentarist of culture, sex, dating, relationship, fashion, style and gentleman's etiquette. He has learned a lot through his escapades, and is happy to pass that knowledge on to you.