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10 Tips For Getting the Spark Back in Your Marriage

Getting the Spark Back in Your Marriage

Marrying the person you love is one of the most beautiful times of your life. Tying the knot in front of your friends and family is a memorable milestone in every person’s life. But regardless of how grand your ceremony or how long your relationship is, there is no assurance that your marriage will be successful. On the contrary, you should exert time and effort to ensure that your marriage stays strong and healthy throughout the years.  

As an art, marriage requires constant attention and cultivation to grow into anything beneficial. Even if you have been together with your partner years before the marriage, you should treat the relationship as if both of you are still in the courtship stage – both of you should continually exert effort to make the other person feel loved and appreciated. These tasks might seem easy in context, but with the number of responsibilities on your plate, these might be too stressful to accomplish.  

Following are some Insta-Grow solutions to further nurturing your marriage even after many years of cultivation. Incorporating these tips into your lifestyle will allow you to experience minimal rates of divorce and keep your marriage strong. 

1. Change your pattern of initiating sex

When initiating sex becomes a routine, it becomes all too easy to bring comparison and criticism into the mix and this always spoils the outcome for all involved. Initiating sex in the same way during the same schedule can eventually breed familiarity, and this can result in boredom. You or your partner won’t enjoy having sex if both of you are already well-aware of how the cycle works.  

To avoid this completely rethink your ways of initiating sex. If you are a big planner, try something spontaneous on the kitchen floor. If you are not the one to initiate sex usually, go out on a limb and express what you want sexually. You can also try out new sex positions or use sex toys with your spouse in bed. Extensive anecdotal evidence suggests you won’t regret being attended to!

2. Hold hands more often

You can’t overlook the smaller details that make an affectionate romance what it is. According to Dr. Kory Floyd, holding hands, hugging, nuzzling and simple physical contact (even in non-erogenous zones) produce a calming and soothing effect. The physical affection is also good for lowering levels of cortisol.

Regardless of how private you are, this should never be an excuse not to hold your spouse’s hand, especially when both of you are in public. You’ll be surprised how this small gesture can improve your spouse’s mood and strengthen the relationship in the long run.  

3. Allow tension to build

Truly refined and quality pleasure is found in building up energy and tension, much like fully drawing a bow string makes for the best flight path of an arrow. So, find ways to build tension and fully-experience the anticipation before actually releasing. This can include foreplay, a change in locations, being more open and expressive about fantasies and the list just goes on.

4. Separate sexual intimacy from routine

Keep your sexual activities sacred, this means when you are about to satisfy each other sexually, you need to step out of all other characters that do not contribute to the sexuality of the exchange. No talk of work, chores, kid’s grades or the weekend with the in-laws. 

5. Carve out time to spend with your partner

Make sure that flirting and planning dates is never phased out of your relationship. These habits spark intimacy and sexual tension.

If you are working five times every week, plan out dates during the weekend. These dates don’t have to be expensive or stressful – merely cooking meals for your spouse and arranging a date night at home will surely make your spouse happy. Make sure that you also find time to talk to your spouse in different times of the day.   

6. Emphasize Affection

Offer each other the full royal treatment because very few people will ever ask. This means back massage, shoulder rubs and foot massage. People often assume sexual intimacy is only sexual, but the power of touch can have practical applications that are major demonstrations of passion and affection.

7. Try a little more vulnerability

Sex is experienced best as a release, so release it all. Let your partner know what you like, what you have not liked, what you feel, experience and fantasize about. Need some help, consider therapy for you or both of you.

8. Maintain a sense of curiosity about sexual intimacy

Look for new ways to make each other feel awesome. Sex is not just a time to chase pleasurable feelings but to really get to know what your partner is like on this plane.

9. Vary the kind of sex you have

There is sweet soft smooth sex and then the sweatier emotionally and passionately charged varieties and they are all great. Try a few different things out for fun. If you need a little help try sildamax.

10. Make sex a priority

Set the scene for sex and treat it as your regular “date with an angel” consider everything you will do and avoid doing to make sex more intimate and passionate. Set the scenes with incense, wine and candles – can’t go wrong there.

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Written by Mark Greene

Mark Greene is writer and life coach dedicated to helping men to perform at peak level. He shares dating advice, style tips and strategies for building wealth and success.