Mark Greene
Achieving Orgasm Sans Hands
Yes, hands-free orgasm is a thing. There are many ways to achieve orgasm and more ways to masturbate or even have sex. If you’ve been pleasuring yourself with your hands since time immemorial, it may seem impossible to get yourself off hands-free. And if you’ve been executing it with such hands-off accuracy, it may seem unimaginable getting it done another way.
Well, let me tell you there are other techniques you can try. Changing up your process teaches your body to respond to a wider variety of stimulation, and doing so sans hands allows you more flexibility. It’s a win-win if you ask me.
Following are nine hands-free orgasm techniques you can experiment with:
1. Sex Toys
This one’s a no-brainer. With the plethora of mind-blowing automated sex toys available for you, it’s easy to find one that’ll help you orgasm sans hands. There are butt plugs, cock rings, nipple clamps, and even penis milking machines like an autoblow masturbator can get you off at just the touch of a button.Â
There are also wearable sex toys, remote-controlled sex toys, and air-based sex toys. Just take your pick. If your toy is not automated, you can still do it hands-free with a sex toy mount. Just prop your toy up and let the fun begin.
2. Tantric Sex
Tantric sex involves the ancient practice of tantra to achieve orgasmic feelings. Tantra is about enlightenment transcending the physical and spiritual planes, and it’s mostly meditative. Many tantric practices don’t involve hands or direct genital stimulation, like deep breathing, prolonged eye gazing, and meditation.Â
In essence, it’s about engaging your senses and connecting with yourself and your partner on a much deeper level.
3. Erotic Hypnosis
Forget pendulums and oscillating twirls; erotic hypnosis is a guided meditation towards a trance-like state where you’re immersed in sexual fantasy. Clinical hypnotherapist Kaz Riley says hypnosis can “enhance sensuality, sexual response, feelings, and sensations without necessarily needing to be touched.”Â
If you wish to try this, there are erotic hypnosis videos available online, or you can employ a professional sexologist or hypnotist for guidance.
4. Dry Humping
The good thing about this technique is there’s no right or wrong way to do it. You can do it solo or with a partner, fully clothed or naked, and in whatever position you find pleasurable.Â
When solo, find something to rub up against that’s soft enough to enjoy, like a pillow, stuffed toy, or upholstered furniture. Just remember to be safe to not risk a hospital visit for a broken back or an STI from a fluid exchange or skin-to-skin contact (when doing it with a partner).
5. Aural Stimulation
You can listen to erotic audio and have your sense of hearing engage the rest of your body. It can be listening to a soothing voice stimulating your senses while you fantasize or listening to binaural beats.Â
Binaural beats are a type of soundtrack that combines two low, slightly different tones that create the illusion of a third tone. There are samples online if you want to give it a listen.
6. Orgasmic Breathing
Breathing exercises are a great way to tune into yourself and channel your energy through your body. As such, orgasmic breathing opens your body to various sensations and lets you connect with your orgasmic self. It’s all about breathing intentionally and strategically to induce sexual pleasure.
7. BDSM
BDSM takes a little thinking outside the box. It involves interpersonal dynamics and power play. It induces a sexual response to stimulation that doesn’t necessarily affect the genitals, such as physical pain (bondage, spanking, whipping) and psychological (public humiliation) and sensual (temperature play) experiences.
8. Sleep Orgasm
This one often happens by accident, and I’m sure you’ve already experienced it. Wet dreams are quite normal with boys during puberty, but it can also happen to women. Though you can’t control your orgasm while you sleep, you can kickstart it by sleeping on your stomach, which is said to encourage sexy dreams.
9. Fantasizing
As the brain is a sexual organ, it’s possible to think yourself into orgasm. There’s a link between the mind and pleasure, as demonstrated in a 2016 study that found that just the thought of fun can feel like the real thing.Â
This technique is quite a challenge but is otherwise rewarding. Just think of something that arouses you and let your imagination run wild. You may use porn or erotica to help you focus.
Takeaway
Hands-free orgasm is just one of the many ways we can explore and play with sensations. We may respond to different things in various ways, such that what others find orgasmic can have no effect on us at all or vice versa; nonetheless, we are all capable of experiencing pleasure. Sometimes we just have to change our old ways and vary our techniques to be open to more orgasmic options and pleasurable experiences.
