The 4 Keys on How to Get a Girl to have Sex with You

So many guys make mistakes when trying to get a girl into bed with them, and you have found the 4 major keys to avoid getting slapped in the face and rejected.

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The focus of this article is broken into two parts. Working on getting your girlfriend into bed if your love life has slowed down, and part two is if you meet someone for the first time and trying to take them home with you.

Both of them have a similar play, and that is focusing on her, and not yourself. Follow these steps to find out how to get a girl to have sex with you.

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Let her know how Sexy she looks

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-Every girl wants to know how good she looks, and she wants to hear it from you. If you are out with your girl or just meeting one at a bar make sure to compliment on her appearance.

As guys, we know how long girls can take to get ready because we wait around for them. When the final product is complete they want to know what how sexy they look.

If you are trying to rekindle the spark in your relationship, and your girl is getting dolled up for a night out then that is the sign she is trying, and you need to take the lead. She wants you to check her out, get thinking about after the date, and make your jaw hit the floor.

Use words like beautiful, stunning, gorgeous, incredible, and sexy to describe how she looks. She will love it, and when you take notice her hormones will get stirring and having sex at the end of the night will be a sure thing.

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If you are meeting a girl at a bar for the first time and trying to take her home then you still need to complement her, but you have to realize that in this situation you have to build up trust with her first.

You need to make sure you ask her name, what brings you out tonight, and even what her job is. If you want to know how to get a girl to have sex with you then you have to show genuine interest in her.

Complement the ways she looks, but keep it less forward than if it was your girlfriend. Stay away from ‘sexy’ and focus more on beautiful. You don’t want her to know what your end game is, but keeping her interested in you is key.

Again, meeting a woman for the first time is all about building trust and letting her know you are interested in her, and not just sex.

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Keep Physical Interaction constant

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A touch can do so many things for a woman, and that is why you need to let her feel your hands on her. Physical Interaction can be anything from holding her hand, to having your arm around her waist, or kissing her randomly.

These little moments are something she will not miss, or forget. Women love knowing their man will do the little things during the day to show she is appreciated, and at night she will reward you for that.

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However, the physical interaction when meeting someone for the first time must be taken in a completely different approach.

The focus of meeting a girl for the first time is to gain her trust, so physical interaction is still important, but must be used in an appropriate manner.

Once you get her trusting you then you will have to assess whether she is open to physicality from you. And if that is the case then start slowly, and that includes just touching her hand. If she pulls it back then you have to reassess her interest and work more on gaining her trust.

If she does not pull back, however, then continue to move slowly because she is still testing you to see your intentions. If you want to have sex with a girl you have just recently met you have to remember that she is always testing you, and you may not even notice. So do not try and go right in the bedroom.

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Send her Flirty Signals

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If you and your girlfriend have had a stall in bedroom activities then you may want to try giving her some subtle signals to get her attention.

Sending flowers to her work is a great start, because this will make her the center of attention at her work, and let all her co-workers know how much you care about her, and she will love it.

Letting her know you appreciate her is one of the biggest turn-ons for a woman, and you need to take advantage of that.

Surprise her and take her out on a romantic date one night, or make her a candle lit dinner for when she gets home from work. Send her romantic texts during the day, or some spicy ones if she reacts well to that.

Anything to let her know you are thinking about her during the day, and look forward to seeing her at night. This will build the anticipation of nighttime throughout the whole day, and her mind will wander and get excited to see what you have in store for her.

The key is to break the routine that you both have fallen into and get the excitement back into your love life.

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This gets a little more challenging once again when it comes to meeting a woman for the first time and trying to send her signals.

You do not want to rush things, because then she may kick you the curb and never even give you a chance, so it is all about being very subtle in your approach. When you are talking to her, make sure to complement her, on her looks, outfit, or her job.

After the night you meet, send her a text message saying how great it was to meet her, and hopefully you can take her out sometime soon. The extent of flirtatious signals to someone new must be limited because you do not want to turn her off, or scare her away.

So keep it calm, cool, and collected. She will come around, and that is when you can turn up the signals to let her know that you want to take things further.

To conclude... Don’t Focus on getting her in bed right away

One of the biggest mistakes any guy makes in trying to get their girl in the mood is being to blunt about it. Girls want to know they are appreciated, and not just there as your play toy.

If your girlfriend is withholding sex then that means you did something wrong. You need to fix whatever that issue is, and start getting back to romantic gestures.

You do not want her saying ‘You just want sex’, because if she uses that sentence you won't be getting laid for a while.

Written by Terrence Kennedy

Terrence Kennedy is the man’s man on a journey to self-discovery. A traveler, extreme sports aficionado, an observant wanderer, a DIY-Know-How, an ultimate outsider and a documentarist of culture, sex, dating, relationship, fashion, style and gentleman's etiquette. He has learned a lot through his escapades, and is happy to pass that knowledge on to you.