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The Pros and Cons of Watching Porn with Your Partner

Watching Porn with Your Partner

Some people love it, some people can’t stand it and believe it ruins a lot, but there’s no denying that porn is here, it’s here to stay, and it’s still evolving. What used to be just photos, has now turned into live sex shows, creative videos, and engaging platforms that bring models and adult entertainers closer to you.

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And while divided opinions might not matter in the big picture, because porn is here to stay, when it comes to a relationship and you and your partner don’t agree on it, things could become interesting. With that in mind, there are a few things you need to know about watching porn with your partner, so let’s talk them over and see whether or not you should go for it.

It Improves Communication

The first thing you’ll notice with porn is that when you’re trying to pick the type of porn to watch, as well as agree on when and why you’re doing it, you need to communicate very effectively. In a committed relationship, this is always a positive that you should strive for. When you’re trying to bring up the idea of watching porn, be effective but have reasonable arguments that you can discuss.

If you want to make the most of it, start by both you and your partner acknowledging that it’s not something you’ve done before as a couple, and keep an open mind about it. Discuss potential benefits from it, as well as any downsides that might occur, and only then you should ask them whether or not they’d be up for it. A thing to keep in mind is that your partner shouldn’t feel forced to do it – if they’re hesitant, don’t pressure them.

You’re Sharing an Experience and Learning a Lot About Your Partner

In ways very similar to having a hobby you and your partner both love or a sexual experience that you’ve found to enjoy a lot, watching porn is really just sharing an experience. If you watch porn, and you find that it does bring you pleasure and you do enjoy it, why not share that fun with your partner?

Not only do you bring your partner in on the fun, but porn can be a great way to learn about what their sexual desires and fantasies are. Not a lot of people can be open about sharing this, even with their significant other, and to make matters worse, there are people that don’t really know that certain things turn them on. Chances are, they don’t know what turns their partner on, either, and porn can be a great way to discover that.

With the porn industry growing quite a bit in recent years, you can now find both amateurs and professionals in just about any role imaginable, playing out any and all sexual acts you might’ve had in your head. All it takes is a quick search and a few clicks of a button, and you’ll find yourself and your partner watching the very fantasies you’ve been dreaming about. When you really want to please your partner (and want them to please you, too), this is a learning experience that can be extremely precious.

You Might Be Setting Up Unreasonable Expectations

Considering that, as we said, the adult industry has covered pretty much any fantasy under the sun, that can also take a turn and set unreasonable expectations as to what something feels like or how it should look like.

The one thing that’s got the most impact on your relationship is probably the fact that watching porn has the potential to make you less satisfied with how your partner looks, physically, or with their sexual performance. This is the exact reason that sparked the “Pornography Kills Love” movement that is basically an anti-porn movement that tries to prevent you from becoming unsatisfied by what used to be a perfect relationship.

Your Partner Might Consider it Cheating

Even though this isn’t all that common, some people do have the opinion that porn is cheating. Ask them to watch porn together, and they may take it as a sign that you’re fantasizing about having sex with other people – if that happens, they won’t be too happy about it. It’s understandable, though, but it’s something that you can discuss if you have good, open communication with your partner.

Should You Go For It?

There is no clear-cut answer to this because it depends heavily on what your and your partner’s opinion is on porn, and how open you both are to trying something new. If you aren’t sure, the first step is to try and figure out what their opinion is on porn, something that shouldn’t be an issue if you have good communication. If you can feel out what they think, you can suggest it and see how things go! 

Written by Mark Greene

Mark Greene is writer and life coach dedicated to helping men to perform at peak level. He shares dating advice, style tips and strategies for building wealth and success.